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Finding Resolution with the Violet Flame

A young woman enfolded in violet flame

It’s the start of a new year here at Violet Flame World.  And it brings great hope and expectation this will be a year of peace, prosperity, and inspiration.

New Year's Resolutions list

At the beginning of a new cycle such as a new year we often make resolutions of change.  Many times, we begin with great determination and good intention only to discover later we did not follow through or accomplish all of our goals.  


Oftentimes, it seems our lives and actions follow a pattern similar to a sign I once saw in a friend’s laundry room. 

A metaphor for getting stuck in a habit - wash, dry, fold, repeat

Indeed, life can sometimes feel like the unending pattern conveyed in this sign.  And it reminds me of some advice about change a wise person shared with me many years ago. At the time I was going through a difficult relationship and was reaching out for answers – something which could help release me from the same recurring patterns and outcomes.  Here’s what I was told:


There are 3 things you can do to create change in your life. They are:


•  Change the other person


•  Walk away


•  Change yourself


At the time, I remember thinking this was good, commonsense advice and didn’t think any of the choices should be too difficult to achieve.  I offered my thanks for this advice and went to leave the room.  At that moment, the wise person added with a slight smile:  “Oh, and by the way, 2 of these choices won’t work!”


I remember being somewhat upset at the loss of 2 of the newly discovered options for change. In fact, I had to ask which one of the remaining options would work! 


The answer went something like this:


You can try and change another person, but we all have free will.  And, you may experience further conflict by trying to change someone into something they aren’t meant to become.  In addition, the other person may not see any reason to change or isn't ready yet.  (Years later, I heard a variation of this from another wise individual who said:  A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still!)


You can try walking away but most times the situation you are attempting to free yourself from recreates itself in the form of a similar challenge  - perhaps with a different face but one which will still result in your needing to resolve or change something about yourself.

Therefore, the only thing you can truly change is yourself.  And yes, this sometimes requires great effort. However, the potential for success is limitless because as you make positive, constructive change the original challenge will have less and less power or influence in your world.  And then you will experience the true freedom which accompanies your overcoming.


True and lasting change is not always easy.  And this is why I believe so many of the world’s spiritual thinkers, teachers, and writers left us with great insight to help show the way. Consider the following:


You must be the change you wish to see in the world.  - Mahatma Gandhi

If you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change. - Wayne Dyer


We cannot change anything until we accept it. Condemnation does not liberate, it oppresses. - Carl Jung


If you do not change direction, you may end up where you are heading. - Lao Tzu


Change in all things is sweet. - Aristotle


The real law of growth in the universe is:  Either accelerate or decelerate. You may choose to stay in the same place but that's wishful thinking. It doesn't happen.  - Elizabeth Clare Prophet


In fact, Mrs. Prophet went on further to say:  …Change is the order of the day. Change is acceleration. Change is alchemy. It is the violet flame.

Young woman's advice to change yourself and the world using violet flame daily

Finding Resolution with the Violet Flame

Resolutions to lose weight, exercise more, or overcome habit all require time and determination before you begin experiencing results. The same is true when you apply the violet flame in your life.


At Violet Flame World, we recommend giving 15 minutes (or more!) of violet flame daily.  At first, you may not notice or feel like much is happening.  However, the process is similar to the growth of a flower or tree – once the seed is planted most of the early transformation is occurring beneath the ground!


We believe the violet flame is an important part of the true change and freedom the World is waiting for.  And it can begin with you!   


Without doubt, giving the violet flame daily is one resolution worth making and keeping.


To learn more about the violet flame or to begin applying it in your life visit our Resources Page where you will find a free, downloadable violet flame ebook along with introductory violet flame videos, mantras, and meditations. 


Until next time…

New Year's Resolustions list including one to give violet flame

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